By observing people, I realized how predictable humans are. The perk of being INFJ is that judging people at some point becomes a superpower without us realizing it. It used to be my curse because I was so not ready to use it. Or should I say, I underestimated my capabilities to judge people. I often confused my gut feeling with anxiety, ignored my warning signs, and ended up in many toxic friendships.

But after embracing the power of judgment I could able to use it well to understand social cues and communication patterns among people when I finally set out of my box of introversion. Yes, when you step into the real world, when you start doing jobs, at some point we have to start talking with people to keep our earnings. And it will be very tough initially until we get a knack for it.

Ever wondered how much powerful impact our words and actions on the people around us? They can build up or tear down, motivate or discourage, and create a sense of safety or fear.

In this very moment, someone’s words are saving a life, and someone’s actions are destroying another’s self-esteem. That is why we have always been told that we have to think before we speak and to be mindful of our actions. The consequences they create can be beyond what we can comprehend.

In the current world we can understand the intention of people even with the reaction we get from the likes we recieve in social media. Not always, but it contributes. I test people through my LinkedIn posts often. Who actually look out for me, and who actually just being a viewer…

Yes, people don’t easily change. There is an old saying in Tamil that is synonymous with if you miss molding a child when he is 5, there is no chance for you to mold his thoughts, actions, and behaviors in his 50s.

Still, I always believed that with the right influence at the right time, one’s words and actions can change people to some extent. Bad can be turned into Good, and vice versa.

Believe it or not, we do have the power to influence how they treat us. We all have the power to choose how we interact with others.

But, again, what if we encounter people who are rude, arrogant, stubborn, or narcissistic? How do we deal with them without losing our sanity or dignity?

I believe we can deal with this by becoming anti-mirrors.

If you google and look if Anti-mirror is a real concept. Yes, there is a concept called anti-mirror. But I am not going to talk about that. This is something I came up with.

When I say Anti-mirror, what I am trying to mean here is – a way of reflecting back the opposite of what we receive from others.

Becoming an anti-mirror takes time, effort, and patience. Personally, at times when your opponent on whom you are trying to pull this off is a sociopath, it will become one hell of an execution.

There will be times when you get your feelings hurt. But you need to be persistent. Be determined to transform the negativity that is being directed at you. But it’s worth the effort as it helps to protect your mental health.

The more resistance you develop, the more the other person’s “crown” will fall to the ground. This is not about getting power over them. It’s about earning the respect you deserve, which they may not have always given to you.

Here are some tips for becoming an anti-mirror:

☀️Be mindful of your own thoughts and feelings: When you’re interacting with someone who is being difficult, it’s important to be aware of how you’re feeling. If you start to feel angry, hurt, or frustrated, take a step back and take some deep breaths.

☀️Refuse to take things personally: When someone is being difficult, it’s easy to take their words or actions personally. But remember that their behavior is often a reflection of their own internal issues, not a reflection of you.

☀️Focus on the #good: Even in the most difficult situations, there is always something good to focus on. Look for the silver lining, and try to find ways to appreciate the positive aspects of the situation.

☀️Be #patient: It takes time and practice to become an anti-mirror. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t see results immediately. Just keep practicing, and eventually, you’ll get better at controlling your reactions.

We can choose to use our power for good or for evil. Again, the choice is ours.

If we want to create a more positive and supportive world, we need to learn how to use our words and actions. We need to become anti-mirrors and refuse to be drawn into the negative energy of others. When we choose to use our power for good, we can make a real difference in the world.

But when things extend beyond the breaking point, when the world no longer got your back, become a Mirror. Use it as a final resort to protect yourself.